Submitted by: Anthony Malibu
Many guys who get dumped work toward winning back the love of an ex girlfriend. But what if your ex starts dating again? Is the situation hopeless now that your exgirlfriend is dating another guy, or are there things you can do to get back together again? Find out the best ways to steal your ex girlfriend back from another man.
Nothing’s more demoralizing than finding out your ex girlfriend started dating again – especially if you were still hoping the two of you could get back together. So what happens now? Should you move on? While most guys completely give up at this point, there are actually some pretty simple ways of winning back your exgirlfriend from another guy. They require some patience and effort, but if you still believe the relationship is worth saving? The following step by step guide will help you out.
Step 1 – Let Go of Your Past Relationship
It’s the hardest thing to do, but it’s also the most important: letting go of your ex girlfriend. Especially if you were trying to get her back, it’s a difficult thing to admit that your relationship is finally over. The fact that your ex girlfriend is now dating again has nothing to do with it – you simply can’t move forward with plans to win her heart back until you’ve fully accepted the break up. The sooner you can do this, the faster you can get started on the path to reconciliation.
Fighting her on it, trying to get her to change her mind… these things are counterproductive and will always hurt your chances. Ditto for showing up at her doorstep and trying to convince her not to date this new guy. Anything and everything you do to stop or challenge your ex at this point will be taken as desperate and needy. Don’t show those colors – stand strong and keep your cool. Getting back your ex girlfriend requires you to show very opposite traits: strength and confidence.
Step 2 – Remove Yourself From The Equation
It’s actually the second most difficult thing for men to do: not contact your ex girlfriend. Dropping out of your ex’s sight for a while is the best possible course of action right now, and this includes all forms of communication. Aside from eliminating ex girlfriend phone calls, you can’t email your ex, text-message her, write on her Facebook wall… none of those things. If it’s easier for you, turn your phone and computer off for a while. Detaching yourself from the current situation will keep you from having to watch your exgirlfriend date this new guy, and it will dull the pain of separation. By not talking to her at all you’re also putting yourself back in your ex’s head by giving her the chance to miss you.
Step 3 – You, You, and More You
During the honeymoon stages of your exgirlfriend’s new romance, there’s absolutely nothing you can do to stop it. So while you’re NOT doing anything, it’s time to start doing something:
focus entirely on yourself
. This means improving your physical appearance, but it also means sharpening yourself mentally too. Start by going to the gym, hitting the treadmill, and sweating off any extra pounds while allowing the despair and hopelessness of the situation to drain from your mind. Exercise is some of the best medicine on the planet, and is good for your mind and body. As you begin to forget about your ex, replace those thoughts with positive energy.
And when you feel slim, fit, tan, and all those other good things? Hit the mall and pick up some new clothing. Dressing well will make you feel even better, which will boost your confidence and self-esteem. The positive changes you’re making in yourself will create an instant attraction the next time your ex girlfriend sees you, and you should keep your eye on that ultimate goal. On top of that, becoming a more positive person will attract others to you… you’ll meet new people, do new things, and enjoy a much happier life if you can let go of the anger, resentment, bitterness, and any other negative emotions you may still have toward the fact that your ex has apparently moved on.
Step 4 – Wait Out The Beginning Of Her Rebound Relationship
Like any romance, the beginning of your ex’s new relationship will be fun and happy. She’ll be excited about her new man, and forget all about you – temporarily, of course. During this time there’s nothing you can do to change things, so don’t even try. This is when you’ll be concentrating on yourself, and trying not to notice what’s going on with your ex.
The good news however, is that most rebound relationship fail within the first two months. As your ex’s new relationship begins to unravel, she’s on the downward swing of things. And you? You’re on the upward swing… and in perfect position to catch her as she’s falling.
And just as the odds say that her rebound relationship will end soon, they also dictate that she’ll probably be on the receiving end of the break up. When her new fling dumps her, that’s when your ex girlfriend will be most vulnerable. She’ll be looking for comfort, companionship, and someone familiar to help her through it. As her loving exboyfriend, you can provide all three of those things. Once she’s back in her arms, your ex will feel incredibly lucky that you’re still around… especially after she sees the new you. All of the feelings she tried to bury when she first began dating her new boyfriend will come right back to the surface. Time it right, and you’ll look like a superhero. You’ll pick her up and help her through this difficult time, all the while reminding her of the awesome memories the two of you used to share.
Step 5 – What To Do If Your Ex’s Relationship Continues On
It’s rare, but every once in a while a rebound relationship will stick. If this happens, you’ll need to employ alternative tactics to win back your ex girlfriend. The fact that your ex has a new boyfriend changes a few of the more common methods and techniques used to win back her heart, and you may need to learn some unorthodox moves. Some of these include subtly inserting yourself into a position between your ex and her new boyfriend, reestablishing a neutral trust, and using the past as a tool to pry your way back into her thoughts. Making that initial connection is tricky, so learn the right (and wrong) ways to do it. You need to accomplish a lot of things in a short period of time, so the sooner you get started the better.
About the Author: These are just some of the opening moves you’ll need to learn when your ex girlfriend has a new boyfriend. To find out what to do next, be sure to check out
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